How to Get Over An Ex |

How to get over a break up and heal from heartbreak with energy healing and ritual.

At the onset of heartache resulting from a breakup, separation or divorce it is always beneficial to support the grieving process and period of adjustment from partnership to single-wholeness with an energetic standpoint as well.

This post outlines a ritual technique that I have given to a number of my private coaching clients to complement the physical removal of a person, the belongings associated with them and lifestyle changes.


The Cleansing

Set up a meditative ambience as you like it (soft music, candlelight etc). Draw a nice warm bath and depending on the size of the tub add one cup or half a cup of sea salt to dissolve. Ideal timing for this rite is when the moon is waning in a water sign (Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces).

If you don’t have access to a bath refer to ***


You can add some fresh or dried thyme, marjoram or chamomile (you can even use a teabag) to the bath. Before doing so hold it in your hand and imagine a white light glowing through it, awakening its spirit and ask it to assist you with your intentions for this releasing bath.

Once you are in the bath ask your spirit helpers, your ancestral bloodlines (known and unknown), the energy of the waning moon and the spirit of Venus to enter your space and to infuse these waters in support of your intentions to release all the emotional baggage that no longer serves you that you have built up in your body and energy field.


Pause until you sense a shift in energy or receive some form of confirmation unique to you that this has occurred. Ask for assistance in letting go of all that you have held on to that you were perhaps unable to process before, now.

***Shower method: Blend a litre or two of warm water with the sea salt and add any herbs you may be using in a clean bucket. Perform the action from the above paragraph first then standing in the shower sponge yourself from head to toe with the warm water blend. Rinse off in the shower and it is done.


The Cord Cutting

{This is a suggested script, if you want to know more about what cutting cords means please read this post}


“Archangel Michael (or your preference) I call upon you now to sever the cords


That restrict me and keep me attached to situations, objects, negative emotions


And anything else regarding [name of ex].


Please dissolve all thought forms that no longer serve me and


Transmute them in pure Source light.


I commit [name of ex] to her/his future and cast her/him from mine,


I dissolve all commitment to her/his emotional welfare,


In all lifetimes, in all timeframes, on all dimensions, known and unknown.


I dissolve all cords that tie me to the past so that I


May have the courage and strength to move into the new and better.


May this be granted for the wellbeing of all.


And so it is.


Picture your ex in your mind and imagine all traces of her/his energy leaving your personal field ~ physically, mentally, emotionally and astrally.

Open your awareness to a motion of energy (sometimes it can feel like a car wash) flowing around and through you, removing any residue you may feel still held in your being concerning this relationship. Imagine it all being washed away.

Every single last bit. Visualise your energy purified and pristine.


The Recovery

Healing and Self-love to Call in Fresh, Healthy, Balanced Love


How to deal with a break up and heal heartbreak with energy healing and ritual.

After dissolving ties and letting go of what was, there is a period of recovery and healing from heartbreak, an abusive relationship or drawn out divorce followed by a time where you feel ready to begin a new long term relationship.

Below is a ritual technique that I have given a number of my prviate coaching clients to put the sparkle back in their aura. 

Some candle magick is in order here because of the transformative qualities of fire, however it is not vital if you are not allowed to use open flame where you live.


The Tending

A pink, white, pale blue or plain beeswax candle it appropriate. If you aren’t using a candle you can place a drop of rose or lavender essential oil on a tissue then rub it briskly between your palms for the heat created by the friction to release the scent.


1) Gazing at the flame or inhaling the fragrance, breathe in your intent to bring love ~ not only of another but for yourself too.


2) Breathe deeply three times and as you do so, allow any heavy feelings to flow out of you and let them drain out from your feet into the Earth for transmutation.


3) Old thoughts may rise up within you but know that you are safe where you are and that you are clearing those patterns and memories from your mental, emotional and physical body to make different choices with fresh results. (If tears start to flow, allow them to as they are cleansing).

Even though it may seem that love has been at the centre of your grief and pain, you are moving through this now for good so that you will be able to separate from past misgivings and once again see love as a positive experience. You always benefit from opening your heart up to more love.

Refrain from spending too much time dwelling on the negatives of your past relationships. Once each thought enters your awareness it is done so just allow them to flit through your mind like a motion picture.


4) While the candle burns (or aroma wafts around you) start to think of all of the ways that love is wonderful. Think of all of the things about yourself that you love. Recall compliments you have been given, think about the things you do for yourself that you find fulfilling and how special you as a person are.


5) Know that the candle flame has burnt away (or the fragrance has vaporised) all of the feelings that no longer serve you and that you are ready to be filled once more with love, poise, calm, self-worth, peace, beauty etcetera.


The Healing

• Place your dominant hand over your heart and become aware of its life affirming beat.

• In your mind’s eye imagine rainbow light streaming into your heart through your hand either guided by your higher self or an angel (whatever your preference).

• Feel the rainbow light healing and integrating forgiveness on all levels regarding everyone involved.

• Feel the reintegration of fragments of yourself and draw them back into heart space, resolving all wounds and sealing in only the purest highest gifts of love that contribute to your wholeness now.




“I open my heart to receive.


I open my heart to give.


In doing so, I recurrently embody all aspects


Of the pleasurable nature of love, wholeness and trust.


I welcome this into my life now and anchor it


Into the very fibres of my being


in accordance with the good of all.”


Take one step forward and as you do so, in your mind’s eye, see yourself stepping out of your former self into a brighter more sparkly presence who is loved beyond all measure.

Give me 5 minutes...

And you will feel more deeply connected to yourself, your intuition and Source energy.

So that you shift your way of being in this world that benefits every area of your life.